Re: update
Posted: Sun Jan 27, 2013 3:23 pm
Hello again Andrea
I think that if you've just been tested to see if there is a UTI and it was all clear, then you can indeed set your mind at rest.
The body needs to heal, to let things settle, to find where the new normal is.... and it isn't a quick process. It seems to me that with each surgery, recovery takes longer than it did the previous time. And please don't forget - you've had a lot of work done. Mr Dixon did a lot of sorting out. Just do what you can - pace yourself (you know about this?) - schedule rests for yourself and don't skip them. Also schedule some gentle exercise, necessary otherwise you will get physically weak surprisingly fast. Has someone been through all this pain management stuff with you? I would recommend this book, if you haven't read it already - Coping Successfully with Pain ( it is £6.74 from Amazon at the moment including delivery) Very very worthwhile reading this, I would recommend it to anyone who has to deal with ongoing pain.
Now - I don't know if you've talked to anyone about being so down? Because if you haven't, then I'm going to suggest that you do. I was lucky enough to be referred (by my GP) to see a psychologist (for free, and only a couple of weeks to wait for an appointment) when I became depressed, and she really helped me, both with the depression and with pain management. In fact I think she helped me more than any single med. I would wish the same for you.
With regard to your relationship with your husband, please don't do anything without talking it through very thoroughly indeed, both separately and together, with someone uninvolved. RIght now, you are both unwell and you both need each other's support. And if you are feeling low in yourself, then it is hard to think straight in the first place. This goes for both of you.
Please, seek help from your GP tomorrow about feeling so down. And I hope that today goes better than yesterday did.
I think that if you've just been tested to see if there is a UTI and it was all clear, then you can indeed set your mind at rest.
The body needs to heal, to let things settle, to find where the new normal is.... and it isn't a quick process. It seems to me that with each surgery, recovery takes longer than it did the previous time. And please don't forget - you've had a lot of work done. Mr Dixon did a lot of sorting out. Just do what you can - pace yourself (you know about this?) - schedule rests for yourself and don't skip them. Also schedule some gentle exercise, necessary otherwise you will get physically weak surprisingly fast. Has someone been through all this pain management stuff with you? I would recommend this book, if you haven't read it already - Coping Successfully with Pain ( it is £6.74 from Amazon at the moment including delivery) Very very worthwhile reading this, I would recommend it to anyone who has to deal with ongoing pain.
Now - I don't know if you've talked to anyone about being so down? Because if you haven't, then I'm going to suggest that you do. I was lucky enough to be referred (by my GP) to see a psychologist (for free, and only a couple of weeks to wait for an appointment) when I became depressed, and she really helped me, both with the depression and with pain management. In fact I think she helped me more than any single med. I would wish the same for you.
With regard to your relationship with your husband, please don't do anything without talking it through very thoroughly indeed, both separately and together, with someone uninvolved. RIght now, you are both unwell and you both need each other's support. And if you are feeling low in yourself, then it is hard to think straight in the first place. This goes for both of you.
Please, seek help from your GP tomorrow about feeling so down. And I hope that today goes better than yesterday did.