Very Large Husband Needs Extremely Thick Cushion
Posted: Thu Feb 01, 2018 11:01 pm
Hi guys!
I can't tell you how relieved I am to find this board. My husband and I have been married 5.5 years and for the 10+ years we've known each other, his pudendal nerve entrapment - meaning our management of it - has absolutely ruled our lives.
He recently lost his job of 16 years, not directly due to his pain, but his anxiety in finding a new job that allows him to wear his comfy track pants and bring a pillow to sit on wherever he goes is through the roof. It's preventing him from even wanting to start the search, he's so afraid of being nagged about his pillow and his choice of clothing. As I'm sure all spouses of people with this issue know, it's absolutely devastating for me to watch him go through this. He's extremely shy whereas I'm extremely outgoing and I just want to smack all the people who ask us, "Oh, are you coming in for a nap?" wherever we bring his pillow (I usually carry it for him into places as it doesn't embarrass me like it does him.)
Here's what we desperately need but I can't find anywhere:
He wants a cushion that looks more like a laptop bag. Something with handles and that doesn't show the donut shape or "U" shape of the pillow inside. He currently sits on one or two EXTREMELY thick memory foam pillows at all times - when driving, when working at the computer, when he used to be at work...etc. But every single one we've found is WAY TOO THIN!!! He's a giant 6'6" 260lb guy with enormous size 16 feet (2 meters tall, 118kg, 18.6 stone, size 50 shoes). I added shoe size because a LOT of his pudendal pain comes from whether or not his shoes are too tight.
If anybody's ever seen this round-cutout Thera-Seat pillow: http://theraseat.com/shop-products/#!/S ... ort=normal he would need about 3 or 4 of those stacked on top of each other for it to work. But he wants them all in one case.
Does anybody have any suggestions for a seller of EXTREMELY THICK memory foam seats for pudendal pain? I'm talking like...it's probably going to look comically large when not squished. Like it might even come halfway up the back of a regular chair. Alternatively, does anybody know of a...what's the word...maybe a seamstress who would be able to make a seat cushion cover if, for instance, we went out and cut our own foam to size and all he/she would have to do is stitch a decent, executive-looking cover for it?
I realize how extremely specific this request is and thank you for your time of reading my plea. I'm desperate. I'd give anything to have his pain instead - I mean it, I'm not saying this flippantly. I've had kidney stones, so I KNOW the type of pain I'm asking for. I think I have the type of personality that could better handle it. But I'm desperate to do anything to help my poor husband right now and I figure this is the perfect place for such a specific request. Thanks!
I can't tell you how relieved I am to find this board. My husband and I have been married 5.5 years and for the 10+ years we've known each other, his pudendal nerve entrapment - meaning our management of it - has absolutely ruled our lives.
He recently lost his job of 16 years, not directly due to his pain, but his anxiety in finding a new job that allows him to wear his comfy track pants and bring a pillow to sit on wherever he goes is through the roof. It's preventing him from even wanting to start the search, he's so afraid of being nagged about his pillow and his choice of clothing. As I'm sure all spouses of people with this issue know, it's absolutely devastating for me to watch him go through this. He's extremely shy whereas I'm extremely outgoing and I just want to smack all the people who ask us, "Oh, are you coming in for a nap?" wherever we bring his pillow (I usually carry it for him into places as it doesn't embarrass me like it does him.)
Here's what we desperately need but I can't find anywhere:
He wants a cushion that looks more like a laptop bag. Something with handles and that doesn't show the donut shape or "U" shape of the pillow inside. He currently sits on one or two EXTREMELY thick memory foam pillows at all times - when driving, when working at the computer, when he used to be at work...etc. But every single one we've found is WAY TOO THIN!!! He's a giant 6'6" 260lb guy with enormous size 16 feet (2 meters tall, 118kg, 18.6 stone, size 50 shoes). I added shoe size because a LOT of his pudendal pain comes from whether or not his shoes are too tight.
If anybody's ever seen this round-cutout Thera-Seat pillow: http://theraseat.com/shop-products/#!/S ... ort=normal he would need about 3 or 4 of those stacked on top of each other for it to work. But he wants them all in one case.
Does anybody have any suggestions for a seller of EXTREMELY THICK memory foam seats for pudendal pain? I'm talking like...it's probably going to look comically large when not squished. Like it might even come halfway up the back of a regular chair. Alternatively, does anybody know of a...what's the word...maybe a seamstress who would be able to make a seat cushion cover if, for instance, we went out and cut our own foam to size and all he/she would have to do is stitch a decent, executive-looking cover for it?
I realize how extremely specific this request is and thank you for your time of reading my plea. I'm desperate. I'd give anything to have his pain instead - I mean it, I'm not saying this flippantly. I've had kidney stones, so I KNOW the type of pain I'm asking for. I think I have the type of personality that could better handle it. But I'm desperate to do anything to help my poor husband right now and I figure this is the perfect place for such a specific request. Thanks!
